When I get to know my clients (my families) through my advocacy work, I always know when a parent is experiencing grief. They may not say it in those words but that is what it is. And when I say to them, “hey its okay to grieve over the fact that your child is not doing what you imagined they would be.” I have had parents burst into tears after I say that and its because they needed to hear it. They need to be validated that what they are feeling is ok and normal. We are human. This idea of a “super mom” or “super dad,” it just does not exist.